So I'm sure you're thinking 'what the heezy is she talking about in this post's title?' Well...read on. I assure you it's not what your sullied minds were thinking. I don't typically talk/blog about my personal life unless I think it might help someone, or it is just really cathartic for me.
Since I broke off an engagement earlier this year (for the best; I promise all is well), I have opened up myself spiritually and emotionally to a wider array of experiences that I may not have been so open to in the past. I like to put things in boxes...they need to have labels so I know what the hell they are there for. However, one person who is so close to my heart refused to allow me to put him in a box. In fact, he tore the box up and lit it on fire. Figuratively speaking...ain't no Waiting To Exhale bonfire ish going on here.
He was so adamant that he could be friend, confidant, family, teacher, spiritual partner, provider of love...pretty much everything to me. Yet, he didn't fit my idea of what I thought my ideal mate should be. He wasn't a bad boy, big guy, swagalicious hottie. Sigh. He said I was setting myself up for failure. I disagreed. He went against the man grain and I didn't like it.Years and years later, it turns out he was right. I just let go of my 15-item perfect-man wish list...well some of it. I realized I was happy around him. That's what mattered. He likes seafood, but genuinely enjoys my vegan/vegetarian cooking. He's very opinionated, but lets me speak my mind also; he listens. He meditates and prays with me. He defies traditional, conformist thought. He eschews material things, but adores my love of shoes and fashion. He goes either way. He enjoys being in my world without letting go of his.
That being said, because I'm hard-headed and tough-skinned when it comes to affairs of the heart, we'll see what happens. Moral of the story? Ladies, don't send a man to Cast Away Island because he's so unlike what you deem as your 'type'. Those past relationships left a bad taste in your mouth so stop going back for seconds! It's so very cliche, but the man that's right for you might be right in front of your nose. Keep an open mind.
As I leave you with that food for thought, here's some food for eating! Last week, I was in the mood for some spicy Asian stir fry and this is what I made for our dinner date:
I stir fried in sesame oil:
1 small onion, cut in quarters
2 garlic cloves, chopped
1 medium head of broccoli
1 zucchini, cut lengthwise and then halved
1 cup of snow peas
1/2 cup or so water chestnuts
grilled and seasoned soy burgers/veggie crumbles, about 2 cups
chopped peanuts, about 1/2 cup
salt and pepper to taste
I combined in a bowl:
soy sauce, water, red pepper flakes, cayenne pepper, and Fiery 5 spice pepper by McCormick
(did I mention I like spicy?)
This was added to the vegetables and stir fried for another couple of minutes. The broccoli was crisp-tender. I detest soggy vegetables!
Meanwhile, I cooked about 3-4 cups of rice noodles and spread on a platter. I covered it with the stir fry combo and served with a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon...which he showed up with, along with flowers and raspberry dark chocolate by the way. Ow!
I know this is not an exact recipe because it was spur of the moment, but it came out FANTASTIC!
I thought I was eating food from a restaurant if I do say so myself.
He agreed...of course.
Until next time,
Love and Happiness,
Nikki
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